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In Times Like These #22 4-5-2020

I have two melodies stuck in my head and I cannot dislodge them for the life of me…

The first is the tune my dryer plays when the cycle ends (doo da da da da da da doo) and the second is R.E.M.’s “It’s the end of the world and we know it.” Neither is uplifting although at least the dryer noise is practical and helpful.

In these times, it’s a good idea to choose a theme song – you can do it for yourself or your family can do it together. You can do it daily or weekly or periodically. It can be a camp song, a gospel song, a prayer or blessing, pop or country, hip hop or classic rock, or the opening from “FRIENDS.” If possible, find something that is positive, inspirational, uplifting, and/or humorous. If you’re doing it as a family, you can make a game of it and each time the song plays throughout the day, you all stop what you’re doing and dance a little, or air guitar a bit, or execute a freeze frame contest.

Look through your playlists or your friends’ playlists or any celebrities’ play list. Think more Katy Perry’s ‘Firework’ Do you know that there's still a chance for you 'cause there's a spark in you. You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine. Just own the night like the Fourth of July. 'Cause baby you're a firework. Come on show 'em what your worth. Make 'em go "Oh, oh, oh!" As you shoot across the sky-y-y and less Mr. Lonely Lonely, I’m Mr. Lonely. I have nobody for my own. I’m so lonely. I have nobody for my own.

In these times, we are needing to arm ourselves with planning some joyful activities, even when challenged to think up activities we’ve never before done. My 90-year old Auntie Esther said her granddaughter from Boston mailed her puzzles. “I’ve never done a puzzle before in my life,” she told me. “and I have 300 or 1000 or 5000 pieces all on top of the table and no clue how to get started.” She also told me her tv viewing has expanded to now include Netflix UNORTHODOX, Married at First Sight, and Hallmark Channel’s any Christmas romance on at the moment. Eclectic to say the least.

So plan ahead as best we can.

The good news is that we talk more with one another than perhaps ever before. So far we have not Y2K20 crashed the internet or our various communications systems, for which I am grateful. Physical distancing and social connecting and re-connecting. Our millennial and young adult children call more than, well, ever. Our extended family are popping up in social media fields like no one’s business and it takes a moment to think, “DO I have a cousin in Russia? Toronto? Iran?” So while our outlook and google calendars may have more blank space than previously, fill in a few spots with scheduled playdates. For us adults as well as for our kids. Nice to have something to look forward to. Nice to reach out and (virtually) touch someone.

In these times, we are all coloring outside the lines. Non sewers are sewing masks. Non bakers are baking bread. Non singers are on public sing alongs.

Choose your song. Actually, Sing, Sing a Song. Make it happy. Make it strong. (Remember The Carpenters?)


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